“The happiest couples never have the same character. They just have the best understanding of their differences.”
We all know that opposites attract, right? Well, I am taking that a step further and applying it to the journey of self understanding, personal growth and relationships using Astrology.
You might sometimes wonder, why you take one approach toward life and your significant other seems to take a complete opposite one? This isn’t entirely based on choice, although we do have a choice on how we respond to others who are different from us.
We are all unique expressions of the entire Zodiac. And every sign has its opposite. Your Natal birth chart and the position of all the planets and stars the moment you were born, is your unique map for understanding the opposites or seemingly conflicting energies working within your own personality.
I believe by more fully understanding our own inner oppositions, we can not just know ourselves better, we will naturally then seek to understand others in order to relate and live together in more harmony.
Being aware of that which opposes you can help you grow and learn about yourself because it is also within you. So this is a great exercise for learning how to integrate our own oppositions and also to better understand and accept others in our lives.
Now let’s take a look at the six Astrological oppositions and see what we can learn.
What You Can Learn from Your Opposite
Aries - Libra: "Passionate Pleasing" Aries is known for their headstrong, childlike exuberance about life along with an “I know what I want when I want it” attitude and a passion to pursue it. They spark fast and burn hot. Charming Libra’s love of socializing and constant accommodating of others is wonderful, but they can be so easy going and busy people pleasing that they don’t know what they want for themselves. When Libra can take the lead, making firm decisions for themselves and Aries can allow someone else to go first once in a while, the fun can really begin for these two.
Taurus - Scorpio: "Refined Reality" Taurus is devoted to beauty, art and refining what they can create or possess in the physical world. By placing value on only what they can see or touch, they could also miss out on the beauty of life's mysteries. Scorpio’s intense determination to protect themselves because of their deep awareness of the darker sides of life is respectable, but this can lead to an extreme need to control or overpower until trust is established. This stubbornness on both sides may cause their truest desires to slip right through their fingers. When Scorpio can relax and find joy in their present reality and Taurus can take a chance on the unknown once in a while, together they can forge an unbreakable bond.
Gemini - Sagittarius: "Talking Truth" Gemini have a smooth-talking, flirtatious, curious nature and variety is the spice of life. To avoid boredom they are quick to learn, quick to love and even quicker to change their minds and move on to the next thing. Sagittarius is an adventurous seeker who loves the freedom of exploration to discover their own answers to life’s big questions. And once they have found their truth, they want to boldly share what they have learned and no one will be able to challenge them. If Gemini can learn how to go the distance and Sagittarius can learn that it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it, these two together can change the world.
Cancer - Capricorn: "Sweet Success" Cancer is nurturing, supportive and mothering, sometimes to the point of self-sacrifice and smothering because the efforts come from their own desire to also feel loved and needed. Their sensitivity and constant concern with what others might think can cause them to hide away and miss out on building the life and home they deeply want. Capricorn is hard-working and more concerned with building status and career success. They gain security and comfort from what they can purposefully provide for themselves and others through their pursuits. If Cancer can trust in their natural protective shell, get out of the house more and share their talents and Capricorn can learn to accept and value the support from people who care, there is no goal they can't reach.
Leo - Aquarius: "Championing Change" The Leo is a natural, dignified, winner, who loves the good life, and always holds their standards and head high in an effort to be seen in the best spotlight. They must boldly express their creative genius to prove they deserve the praise and love they desire from everyone. Aquarius’ dream is to wake up and change the world through humanitarian efforts and sharing knowledge that inspires progress. But with such extraordinary hopes and visions for the future their heads can get lost with the planets and stars. If Leo can trust in their natural gift to shine and recognize the love that can come from casting it on others, and Aquarius can mainstream their mission in a way that allows them to successfully bring their unconventional wisdom to the masses, together they can inspire all toward greatness.
Virgo - Pisces: "Working Wonders" Virgo is efficient, practical and health conscious, paying great attention to detail, making sure everything is perfect and in order at all times. Their number one goal is to provide the highest level of service for improved mind, body and soul. Dreamy Pisces is compassionate, romantic, tolerant,imaginative and illusive, believing that destiny and magic take care of everything, including the daily chores. Spreading unconditional love is what they feel is the ultimate cure all. If Virgo can accept the idea that perfection is an illusion and open their minds to unseen possibilities for making things work, and if Pisces can see clearly through their rose colored glasses enough to ask for help when they feel lost, it won't be any wonder why life is going so far beyond expectations.
Putting it all together
I hope this fun insight shows how the simplest understanding of our opposites, from both an internal and external perspective, can really offer valuable and useful tips for better relationships.
You may know or meet someone who is your opposite and now be able to understand them a little better and maybe even appreciate the different ways you each approach and move through life.
Remember, that which opposes us is also within us. So if something about someone else bothers you, ask yourself what it might be reflecting that bothers you within yourself. Anybody got a mirror?
Start improving your closest relationships with an Astrology Reading, by learning some more of the basics here or by grabbing a book on the subject from my suggested resources page.