The Benefits of Astrology for Relationships

We are in Libra season now and there is much focus being placed on relationships. So I wanted to share just a few of the ways Astrology can benefit us all on the journey to finding love and sustaining successful, happy and healthy relationships. 

First, Astrology can provide helpful insight into potential commitment fears and the level of willingness or resistance to entering relationship in the first place.

My husband, Daniel and I celebrated 10 years of marriage this summer. I feel so lucky to have found this solid, supportive, loving partner to share my life with. But before I really knew myself through the lens of astrology, and before I met my husband, I made a whole lot of bad choices when it came to love. My Natal Chart opened up the Pandora's box of all the reasons for that and pointed me to what I really needed and desired in a partner, as well as why I wasn't attracting him to my life.

Luckily, with the help of astrology I discovered and embraced a new love for myself that I feel confident the cosmos rewarded me with the meeting of my husband. So what's important to note here before I go on is that the relationship that must be continuously and primarily worked on, is the one we have with ourselves. And this will always be the case to ensure establishing and maintaining good relationships with others.   

Astrology can also provide valuable insight into how you and your partner connect or conflict in personality, character, and general approach to life. 

I remember studying my husband's Natal Chart and our charts together intently when we first met. I will be honest, we don't have the perfect, magical planetary connections. As individuals we are actually quite different. Almost like an "opposites attract" kind of chemistry. However, we do have a few key combinations that certainly confirm why we are together. And of course, there is always that mysterious "X factor" that is felt and can't fully be understood at all.

Nevertheless, when I shared with him my initial insight into his Natal Chart and personality he was a bit shocked. It was crazy to him that I could know so much about him just by looking at this weird diagram. And on some level I think it scared him at first. But then when I explained how I felt it could be really helpful in navigating our relationship in an honest, real way, that could help us go the distance, I think it actually gave him more confidence in us. 

Astrology can support understanding how you and your partner show love, express emotions and needs so you can learn to care for one another more consciously and compassionately.​

One of the key things, in my opinion, that has given us the ability to last as long as we have, is our mutual awareness, acceptance and respect for our differences from the beginning and a willingness to always choose each other, learn from each other and give each other plenty of space to be ourselves.

That isn't always easy though, and shit happens in life that can trigger us and cause us to take our stuff out on each other or hurt each other unintentionally. But by having the understand of our astrology to come back to as well as the awareness of whatever cosmic vibes may be influencing things, we can quickly find compassion and compromise to move through tough or stressful times and avoid creating larger issues. We have done this on many occasions and so I feel confident in saying astrology has served our marriage well over the years. 

Astrology can definitely be an objective tool for navigating challenges, disagreements and conflicts that arise in your relationship and in life.​

And one of the areas where major challenges can arise in relationships is parenting.
Astrology can be a very supportive tool for co-parenting, understanding differing parenting styles, and learning how or where you can best serve each other and your children. 

Conflicting approaches to raising children is common and can create major struggle and stress for parents. This is in part because our individual choices and reasoning for how we parent is most often in response to the way we were raised. And that can naturally conflict with our partners if our upbringings where very different. So discovering where there can be give and take or a middle path will allow couples to more positively parent and nurture their own relationship at the same time. And the astrology chart can offer significant insight and support throughout the journey.

My husband and I had very different childhoods, but there were certain fundamental similarities that we have bonded through and therefore have been able to find our common ground and set basic goals and strategies we can agree on in raising our son. And the astrology also confirms what assets we each bring to the process so we can create a healthy balance in our efforts to be the best parents we can be. 

And what about the child's chart you might be thinking. Oh yes. This is priceless too. But I'll save the value of knowing our children's astrology for benefiting the parent child relationship for another time. 

And let me remind you and just add one more thing. You don't have to know the astrology of your partner or anyone you are in relationship with for astrology to serve you well. 

My husband isn't deeply into astrology like I am and doesn't know the ins and outs of his chart, or mine for that matter. But because I know astrology and myself and we share a desire to maintain a healthy marriage, I can use this unconventional tool to benefit us both and our family.   

If you know yourself and your own astrology, you will have all you need to cultivate all you desire in love and partnership.